Question by itsgamblintime: any ideas how to get her back? i know its long, but please read!?
Two years ago I met this girl named Rita on okcupid.com. We talked a for a month and then met in september. Initially I really wasn’t into her, but felt a few common bonds. We had dinner and chatted for awhile, facebooked and nothing but facebook chatting every there on out. We had coffee in march 2009 once and I actually tried to set her up with a friend of mine, but that turned out to be a bust! Then I found myself trying to pursue her. We went to a Twins game and did a few things in may 09, but she had already been interested in some other guy. In june 09, she said things were getting serious with him….that lasted about three weeks! I ended up getting the max attention from her july-august. We did a lot of stuff together, I of course liked her romantically and was hoping for the same from her. We also began sharing food and drink, I began to trust her too. She kept saying its not a good idea for us to date, that we didn’t have enough in common, etc, etc. She always had very weak excuses, like I didn’t like to take the bus, or stupid stuff like that, nothing really that a person would consider an actual reason for not being interested. Shes very difficult to figure out, only ever having one serious boyfriend, lacking confidence and not real sure of herself. In september 09 I got mad when she rejected me and I dropped her off and in my haste gave her the silent treatment. She said, “call me when you’re ready to talk!” when she got out of my truck. We didn’t talk for 2 months after that. She did try to make contact with me on facebook twice, I shunned her and gave her a one word response one of the times. In early november I made contact with her, we talked for hours on facebook. She told me that the night I gave her the one word response, she cried afterwards and felt bad. We went out a few days later for dinner. Had a good time, went back to her place and watched a movie. We layed in her bed and cuddled and I held her tight. The next week, same thing, except this time we ended up kissing, which I had to talk her into. We kissed a few times and then a lot. About two weeks later she started acting weird and wouldn’t respond to me. She told me that her guy friend said I was a bad influence on her and that I was a bit “stalkerish” because I would write her stuff on facebook. One night it took me 3 hours to convince her that he was full of crap and that whatever is the problem we should talk about it. She said she was gonna give me til the end of november to prove that we’re a good fit. We went out a few days later, initially she was real quiet and seemed mad at me. We went to eat, then went to Borders to browse and by that time I could feel her loosening up a little bit and by the time we got to the bar for trivia, you could tell by her smile that she was back. We made out afterwards back at her place and I never heard a word from her about any of that crap that guy friend of her’s said. From that time on, everything was fine and we were together 1-2 times a week, it was dating. As the winter time went on, into the new semester, we werent together as much, but I would still come over and we would do things. Everytime I’d come over, we would get in her bed and make out. Close to getting everything off, but not quite! Lots of kissing, would never want me to leave. In May, there was a little bit of turmoil when we couldn’t figure out what we should do, I didn’t want to walk around downtown st paul and 10pm, but she did. I didn’t end up going with her, she got mad and told me to go home and hung up on me when I tried calling her. A week later, everything was settled. I started working two jobs and began production on the film I co wrote/co produced, but I still called her and talked on facebook. Her and her gf made plans to move in together, which just happened, there was a lot of planning that went into that. It just seemed that it was tough to plan stuff with her, so much to do on both of our sides. In early july I took her out for a belated birthday dinner. She seemed glad to see me. We decided to rent a movie and she iniated the make out session. This time it was better than any other time. We spent 4 hours in bed just fooling around. It was great. Again didn’t want me to leave. To be honest with you, we werent in a relationship I don’t think ever, dating yes, but I’m really not sure sometimes due to her bizarre behavior at times. Again, it was hard to plans things with her, but I have very limited availability, so that didn’t help. Shes a very social person, always on the go in the evenings, with friends and stuff. Never stays home at night! A few weeks ago, on facebook, she asked me if I had been on any dates, I said no, even though, I’ve dabbled in a few here and there over the past 6 months while making out with her. I’ve dated better looking women than Rita, so I kept on seeing other women because I thought she didn’t look good enough for me, though I cared very much for her and felt safe and secure and
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I don’t trust many people and have only trusted one other girl in my life besides Rita. A few days after I deleted her, she sent me a facebook message for some delta airlines coupon thing. It was a bit strange considering what happened so recently. I mean you think she would have noticed that I deleted her? I’m worried she doesn’t care for me anymore and that I wont be able to get back into her life romantically. A few people think I’ll be back in the picture soon considering that I always got back in before. I just know this…I want my Rita back! Please share with me your opinions and thoughts, your feedback is very appreciated.
Answer by Wiggle Wiggle Love
i think shes really confusing. i can understand though that you like her. im actually sorta confused actually….uhm…..i thkink yahoo cut you off can you edit it and refinfish the story or was that it? sorry :/
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