Question by Marie: Looked at my best friends text messages…?
I know, I know. I definitely violated her trust, but I can’t tell her.
My best friend/maid of honor moved into my house and she originally planned to stay until she finished the police academy and had enough money to live in this expensive city. We had a rocky start for the first week (cleaning duties, etc.) and for the last two months things have been wonderful.
I came home after work and she told me she found an apartment, signed a lease, and wanted to start moving. I wish she had found a job first… But anyway, I asked her if I had done something wrong or offended her. She said no, and she just wanted to be independent again.
She left to go find a moving truck and left her phone behind. That’s when I snooped. I read her text messages and found that she has been saying some very hurtful things about me to people I don’t even know. She lied about random things as well. She had also been on an apartment search for the last month, and repeatedly said she couldn’t wait to leave my home.
Today I helped her pack and move. I have said nothing to her about it, because obviously I would have to admit I snooped. I’m just so shocked and hurt. Did she feel obligated to pretend to be my friend?
We have been friends for 12 years and I never thought she would talk about me that way. I understand people need to vent, but she has apparently been “venting” for two months to random people.
Thank you all for your advice. I’m not sure yet what I want to do. My fiance wants me to relieve her from my Maid of Honor. He is trying to protect me.
I still can’t believe she has been pretending to be happy for over a month. I should have kept myself ignorant.
Answer by lovligirl
She may just be the type to like drama in her life, thus creating more by gossip. She may not feel negatively about you but can’t resist the gossip. See if she calls or extends her friendship after the move. Most of us are guilty of saying bad things about our friends even if we really love us. It’s human nature, but it’s no excuse.
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