Question by Superfluous: My fiance lives at the beach and I live in the city, should I really consider the following…?
Moving with him?
I’m also considering the pros and cons:
Living in the city is more convenient since I have access to more activities and places that I will not find in a place at the beach.
I practice ballet, pilates and Yoga and all the academies are in the city!
You have a couple of yoga retreat centers and pilates studio at the beach but that’s not what I’m looking for, besides they are pretty exspensive there.
No ballet teachers there. I go to singing classes as well and I’ll not find any teacher at the beach.
He’s a wealthy man in an out, I’m independent and I’m working on my own website. That’s a big plus because I’ll have an option for myself.
The city is really convenient but it cannot compare to a relaxed place at the beach/mountain…Sometimes I think about it and feel like just giving up everything and moving with him, a lot of friends tell me that I’m an idiot for not taking this chance but sometimes I feel I should work the webiste out and then consider it, save money…
But sometimes I feel I should just be a woman, get pampered, relax, stop aging with all the stress of a job, environment.
He tells me that I feel tired and sick because I’m not learning to be a woman, that he would give me anything I desire if I just learn to be a woman.
He says that he’s giving me the option but I wont take it. That I’m streesed because I want to.
What should I do?
Leave the city to move with him, get healthier and everything I desire? But what with my other desires that I wont find at the beach(Dance, singing…)
I can work my website from the beach but?
Should I go with him, be patience and wait until an option of buying a house in the city knock doors?
But then the time wasted, time I could use to practice what I love doing, dance and sing…while I work and build my online business…
I’m confused, what do you think is a wise/better choice/decision right now?
I’m tired but confused at the same time.
Thank you.
Best answer:
Answer by Brad
I would take my time in a situation like this. When a person says act like a woman it sounds like they want to tell you what to do and living in his house on his dime will lend him to believe that he gets to say what happens around there. Get yourself financially free before committing to something like that. If he really cares about you he would want you to have your own life as well as your life with him.
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